The tragic death of NHL star Johnny Gaudreau and his brother Matthew in a car/ bike accident last Thursday in New Jersey was sad beyond words. The pair, riding home from a rehearsal dinner for their sister’s wedding the next day, were killed by a drunk driver who’d passed on the right side of a vehicle ahead. Words fail.

The loss of the brothers reminded us that in our new book Deal With It we dealt with a key moment in Gaudreau’s NHL career when he abandoned Calgary, the only NHL team he’d known since 2014, for Columbus in a controversial decision. Here’s what we said:

“If 2017-18 had been a turning point, 2021-22 was the major breakthrough that saw Gaudreau as a HHoF legend in the making, one who could have his number someday in the rafters in Calgary… should he choose to remain there. As it was, Flames supporters who had seen the team win just one playoff series since 2004, were eager to see how high the new-look Flames could soar and if Gaudreau might finally find his playoff scoring touch. They also looked forward to a possible matchup against the Oilers who’d had to work to even make the postseason.

Against stingy Dallas goalie Jake Oettinger, the Flames had to work just to escape in seven games, with Gaudreau notching just two goals in the series. Both would be game winners as Calgary outlasted the Stars in a nailbiter. His brilliant Game 7 overtime snipe— going short-side top corner near Oetinger’s head— was his highwater mark in a flaming “C,” sending the club into their first postseason clash with the Oilers since 1991. Coach Sutter praised his little winger’s efforts, saying Gaudreau had “taken that step to perform as well in the playoffs” as in the regular season. Gaudreau’s play in the series against Dallas was not helped by indifferent play from Tkachuk, who seemed disinterested in going to the danger areas and only mixing it up physically with the underdog Stars when scrums or opportunities for face washes were provided.

Unfortunately for the Flames, the struggles of their top line against Dallas caught up to them in a passionate showdown with McDavid and the Oilers. In Game 1, Calgary raced to a lopsided 5-1 lead before seeing McDavid bring the Oilers back to tie it at 6-6 in the third frame. Tkachuk got the last laugh on this occasion, burying the third of his three goals that ensured a ridiculous 9-6 series-opening win for Calgary. In Game 2, Calgary once again took an early lead only to watch Edmonton roar back again again. This time, the Oilers made their resurgence hold up and claimed a 5-3 win. After dropping Game 3 in concerningly easy fashion (4-1), then trailing for the bulk of Game 4, the Flames seemed to turn a corner when they came back to tie Game 5  3-3. Looking for a turning point on Edmonton ice, they instead sagged as the Oilers scored twice in the final seven minutes.

Facing elimination in Game 5, Gaudreau’s Flames toyed with fans’ emotions as they possessed the lead twice only to see Edmonton get the equalizer both times. Pushed to the brink, the gut punch of McDavid potting the winner in OT was the final touch on Calgary’s wasted chance at a deep championship run. As it turns out, it was also the early end of an era that once held so much promise. “Missed opportunities,” the Sutter lamented postgame. “It’s not being critical, that’s just true. They’re going to tell you that, too. Missed opportunities go the other way.” The subduing of Calgary’s top line (just six goals including Tkachuk’s Game 1 hatty) was a key to Edmonton’s shockingly decisive triumph, leading to the same old questions about Gaudreau. Those questions also applied to Tkachuk, with doubt cast upon building around them for playoff success. There would be little time for reflection in the offseason talent market.

Instead of Calgary entertaining trades, the options would be in Gaudreau’s hands. As the July 1 trade deadline approached, Gaudreau announced that, despite an enormous eight-year, $80M contract offer from the Flames, he would test free agency. The star winger claimed to many in private that he wanted to go home so his wife could have their baby in the USA. As such, it was believed his preferred venues were the Islanders, Devils or Flyers (closer to home and a childhood favourite team, given he grew up just across the Delaware River from Philly). Still wishing something could be worked out, Calgary management hoped against hope for a reversal of his decision to entertain other cities after the UFA market opened. But Flames fans quietly resigned themselves to losing him for nothing.

To the shock and surprise of many, Gaudreau would go only as far as Columbus, Ohio, when it came to finding a new home. Accepting less than Calgary’s max offer to go play on a team with few real hopes of playoff contention– a ten-hour drive from the Jersey shore where he supposedly wanted to be– Gaudreau sent a missile into Flame country. The optics were terrible for the 29-year old superstar, after insisting he wanted to be near the family home on the Jersey shore. Eric Duhatschek, shortly after, summed up the stunned reaction in The Athletic, writing “The fact that it took Gaudreau so long to choose effectively sabotaged the Flames’ off-season, because it closed so many possible Plan B options to the organization. Closer to home, but not close — because if close to home was the absolute priority, then he could have picked the New Jersey Devils, who also tabled an offer. Columbus is more easily reached by private jet than Calgary, but it’s not as if he’ll be dropping into his mom’s house for dinner after a game or a practice — or getting emergency babysitting service if they need someone right this minute to help out on the home front.” Calgary’s abandonment was best summed up by CBC broadcaster Andrew Brown’s sign-off that day, “And that’s the news for now, I’ll be back here at 11, unless a news station in Columbus offers me way less money… and I’ll probably go do that.”

Gaudreau himself put a salty punctuation on dumping Calgary at his welcome presser in Columbus. “It didn’t matter where I was signing. Our decision was it was best for us not to go back to Calgary.” From America, the reaction was more sympathetic to Gaudreau. In the New York Post, Larry Brooks sneered, “The hysterical response to Johnny Gaudreau’s decision to leave millions on the table in Calgary and instead sign with Columbus was indeed just that. Players are routinely lambasted across the professional sports landscape for being greedy mercenaries. Now this one is being targeted for taking a road less traveled.”

On Barstool Sports, personality “The Rear Admiral” summed up a scathing putdown with “Hell hath no fury like Canadian media (allegedly) scorned… But when media members wail and stomp their feet because a fellow adult opts to work in a new location, well that’s a special kind of entertainment.”  For Flames GM Treliving, whose contract wasn’t renewed at season’s end, there was some resignation over the hand he’d been dealt. “At the end of the day, the players make decisions,” Treliving said. “You always reflect back on how you go through a process. I feel very, very comfortable that the ownership of this organization, the management team here did everything possible to have [Tkachuk and Gaudreau] sign and stay. They chose, they didn’t want to. Not a lot you can do about that so you move forward.”

Bruce Dowbiggin @dowbboy is the editor of Not The Public Broadcaster  A two-time winner of the Gemini Award as Canada’s top television sports broadcaster, he’s a regular contributor to Sirius XM Canada Talks Ch. 167. His new book Deal With It: The Trades That Stunned The NHL And Changed hockey is now available on Amazon. Inexact Science: The Six Most Compelling Draft Years In NHL History, his previous book with his son Evan, was voted the seventh-best professional hockey book of all time by bookauthority.org . His 2004 book Money Players was voted sixth best on the same list, and is available via brucedowbigginbooks.ca.

“Some say the pinnacle of success is when you lose interest in money, compliments and publicity.” Todd Snider

If you believe the recent Democratic Party convention this is the best time in history to be a woman. “Joy”, “equity”, “entitlement” and “breaking glass ceilings” were all the rage as speaker after speaker (who two months ago wanted her fired) fawned over Kamala Harris and the possibilities of women taking over the power structure. Confront your fears of Trump, and thus defeat them!

Grave women anchors like Dana Bash on CNN talked about how the DEMs were now the party of low-testosterone men like Pete Buttigieg who fetishize their guilt at every turn. Ascendent women are trampling them in their race to the top. (The same women who can’t define a woman anymore.) VP nominee Tim Walz was lauded for distributing tampons to his high school students, however they identified.

Contrasting this rosy portrait of chromosome conquest were the stories of vulnerability from the recent Paris Olympics where even the women who won medals spoke about the anxiety crushing them. They described cracking Like porcelain under the price exacted by fame. “People said I’d never make it” was a constant refrain. Their careers seem defined by their critics who took joy from their failings.

Prominent among them was gymnast Simone Biles who described the abuse she’d suffered from a male trainer and on social media as the greatest female gymnast in history. Even as she added more golds to her mantle she’d seemed unable to find peace in her accomplishments. Due to mental blocks, she’d had to step away from the sport for a time to get her head straight. She had a lot of company from fellow competitors who described sexual harassment and intimidation on social media for their unhappiness. (Hence the constant mental health commercials on the TV broadcasts.)

After one race in the U.S.track finals, two of the three American women on the podium, including winner Sha’Carri Richardson, eschewed thanks to instead rage against evil forces aligned against them. The Netflix series Sprinters showed the psychological struggle endured by women runners from the U.S. and Jamaica. Their angst was in contrast to gold medalist Noah Lyles who gloried in his celebrity and defied his critics. Only 36-year-old Jamaica veteran Shelly Ann Fraser-Price  seemed content with her work.

This refrain of insecurity was echoed by tennis legend Naomi Osaka. “Unfortunately, I’ve always suffered from perfectionism, and I doubt myself a lot,” she told reporters in Toronto recently. Osaka withdrew from tennis to have a baby and get her priorities aligned. “I learned… I am willing to do whatever it takes to get to where I feel I deserve to be.”

Deserve is another constant refrain. The notion that reaching the top of the athletic pinnacle is not enough to satisfy their longing for meaning. Fellow American tennis star Amanda Anisimova similarly pulled back from her career for a time, and is happy to see Osaka be “as vulnerable as she is so honest, it’s something very special.”

Vulnerable is a word that came up with Canadian tennis star Bianca Andreescu. She echoed the narrative, describing her fall from U.S. Open champion to injured both physically and emotionally in a freefall from success. “There was a time when I lost my joy in tennis. But I found it again,” Andreescu wrote in The Players Tribune. “And I learned that I will always love tennis deep in my heart, no matter what. It has given me so much.”

Do women athletes in today’s age still face the same hurdles as Billie Jean King and the fearless pioneers of women’s pro sport? Has the freedom promised by feminism simply redoubled the self-demands young women face in the time of Kamala? Has DEI, with its fraudulent advancements, robbed them of deserved glory? Why does Christian basketball star Caitlyn Clark seem grounded when so many around her are lost?

Or is constantly exploring the depression faced by these highly motivated women athletes counter-productive? Current research shows that rumination, the pathological obsession of pain turning over in your head, only serves to make those problems grow. For women athletes trained to confront challenges this often is destructive. It becomes a vicious cycle.

While some therapists still encourage going deeper to examine your pain, many top behavioural therapists now try to break that habit of rumination. Simply whispering “Get out of here” three times to yourself can dispel the relentless cycle of anxiety.

Of course, listening to the cult-like Democrats such as Michelle Obama the fault still lies with men like Trump. Heaven forbid anyone challenge their pain narratives. Unless there is a political advantage they hammer the same dated 1990s tropes of male oppression. Which is why Trump, the arch villain, was a punching board for so many convention speakers. The unrepentant #OrangeManBad of their nightmares glories in his alpha male status, refusing to ruminate over the Left’s obsessions.

Both candidates for the presidency will argue their case this fall. Looking forward versus dwelling on the past. But looking to sports may offer a recipe for bringing people together, not tearing them apart.

Bruce Dowbiggin @dowbboy is the editor of Not The Public Broadcaster  A two-time winner of the Gemini Award as Canada’s top television sports broadcaster, he’s a regular contributor to Sirius XM Canada Talks Ch. 167. His new book Deal With It: The Trades That Stunned The NHL And Changed hockey is now available on Amazon. Inexact Science: The Six Most Compelling Draft Years In NHL History, his previous book with his son Evan, was voted the seventh-best professional hockey book of all time by bookauthority.org . His 2004 book Money Players was voted sixth best on the same list, and is available via brucedowbigginbooks.ca.